What’s My Ethos?

I believe that to different depths that are unique to each individual, we’ve all learned how to hide our authenticity in some way, shape or form. Most of the time we adapt, contort or twist ourselves into different shapes out of a fear that we won’t be loved if we show up as our most vulnerable, real selves. Other times we inherit these adaptations from systemic oppression or intergenerational trauma. We learned (or our ancestors learned) to adapt as a survival mechanism—often at a time when we were younger and did not have the same resources, tools or development of our prefrontal cortex as we do now. As adults we unconsciously carry these adaptations forward—not realizing that what used to allow us to survive, now limits us from living our most meaningful life.

Together, we’ll understand what your deepest desires are for yourself (e.g. to feel happy, content, alive, free, at peace), and work together to understand how your unique set of life experiences and subsequent adaptations might be contributing to what is preventing you from experiencing the life you want for yourself. We will identify, track, and understand what your adaptations are and how they show up in your life in the present moment—somatically, emotionally, and mentally, bridging together the mind-body in our healing journey. Once we have cultivated this awareness and insight, we create the space for new ways of being to emerge.

My therapeutic work is integrative, predominantly rooted in an attachment and psychodynamic framework. My framework draws primarily from NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) which is a multifaceted approach to healing that addresses the mind, body and relational dynamics (with the self and others). I am also IFS-informed and incorporate parts-work and inner-child work within my approach.